Is Your Relationship Over – It Takes Two To Tango
Determining if a relationship is truly over can be difficult. Minor squabbles and disagreements are common in any relationship. Learning to compromise and live with each other’s differences is what makes your relationship stronger. There may be more serious issues, though, that require your immediate attention. Is your relationship over or about to be?
There are many different things that can happen in a relationship. Some are easily resolved and some are not. It is best if a relationship is truly over to face that fact and move on. On the other hand, if the issues are minor and both partners want to resolve them and stay together, then they should work together to salvage their relationship.
Does your partner seem depressed? Has he lost interest in things he used to enjoy? Does he seem to mope around the house as if something is weighing on his mind? Does he not seem to hear you when you speak to him? These could be signs that he is wanting out of the relationship but has not found a way to tell you yet.
Do you feel that you are trying very hard to contribute to the relationship but he isn’t? Your partner needs to be as committed to the relationship as you are. A relationship involves two people, not just one. Each partner must be willing to give in order for it to work.
Is his behavior becoming so intolerable you are happier away from him than with him? Is this really the way you want to spend your life? If his mood and behavior are affecting you negatively, something needs to change. You got together initially because you enjoyed being together. If being together now is more of a burden than a joy, something is wrong.
If your partner has started to complain and criticize you over just about everything, that’s a sign that he may want out. He feels trapped that he has not faced facts and told you he wants out, so in his misery, he is taking his frustration out on you.
One sure sign that it is most likely over is if either of you are seeing someone else. You cannot successfully have a relationship with two partners. One of them will fail, maybe even both. If you or he are seeing someone and enjoy being with them more than each other, it is time to confront the situation and move on. If he is having an affair, you may not want him back. If you do, then he must choose between you and the other woman.
Even if he does come back, it is extremely difficult for a relationship to overcome an outside affair over the long term. It is hard to learn to trust someone again who has once forsaken you. In the back of your mind, you’ll always wonder if he’s up to his old tricks.
The main thing that must be determined is whether or not your partner is showing signs of wanting out. Trying to keep someone in a relationship who does not want to be there does not work. You cannot force someone to love you or want to be with you.
Is your relationship over? Only you and your partner can determine that fact. If he does not want to help you resolve the issues, it is best to end it and move on. Obstacles and problems can be overcome if both partners are willing to contribute. A one sided relationship is an extremely lonely one. If both partners want to stay together and work at it, the relationship can last. It takes two to tango.
