Signs A Relationship Is Over
Signs A Relationship Is Over – Do Not Ignore The Omens Of Love’s Sinking Ship
Sometimes when a relationship ends, one of the partners seems to be blindsided. They claim they did not see it coming. We are often reluctant to face the truth, so we push it to the back of our mind. We might see the signs a relationship is over, but we often look the other way.
Another reason we may not recognize the signs of a love turning sour is because we are so closely involved in the situation. Sometimes standing back a bit in observation sheds some light on a few things.
Here are some signs that may indicate your love affair is in trouble.
1. No Sweet Kisses
If you’ve ever been kissed by someone that really loves you, a lot, you’ll remember it. Meaningful and passionate kisses are something special between two people in love. They should happen regularly. When was the last time he/she kissed you that way?
2. What Sex Life
If intimacy has basically ceased to exist, or is rare, that is an issue. Sure, in new relationships, sex occurs more often than it does after you’ve been together for a while. But do you desire him/her anymore? Does he/she desire you? There are times when work stress, financial problems, or other issues cause you to experience decreased desire. But if you basically have no sex life, that is not a good sign.
3. He/She Is Never Home
Remember when your lover was like gum stuck to your shoe? Granted, as the newness of a relationship wears off, it is normal for the two of you to spend less time together. But if either of you is looking for reasons to get away from the other, that is a red flag. In a solid relationship, couples WANT to spend time together. If he/she is constantly looking for excuses to avoid you, find out why.
4. The Crystal Ball Predicts the Future
When you first got together, you constantly talked about the future: marriage, kids, a home, traveling to exotic and wonderful places. Now you cannot get him/her to commit to a dinner party or a date night. It could be that your partner is already of the mind you won’t be together much longer. That is not a good sign.
5. The War of the Roses
You may be too young or old to remember the Roses; husband Oliver was played by Michael Douglas, and his wife Barbara was portrayed by Kathleen Turner. Bad things can happen when love goes bad, and the Roses are a prime example. In the movie, there is a twist at the end that shall not be revealed in case you haven’t seen it. But in real life, when you start fighting constantly, that is a bad sign. Every relationship experiences occasional squabbles. This is much bigger.
When normal conversation cannot take place without evolving into a full blown battle, there is excessive tension and stress in the relationship. An argument escalates way out of control, nasty things get said, you both get hurt, and the damage is done. War is for enemies. Love is for, well… lovers.
6. To Be or Not to Be
If any of these signs exist, don’t naturally assume the worst. If more than one of these reflects your situation, you need to evaluate your position and your feelings. Don’t ignore bad signs. Whether or not the indications are serious enough to warrant the end of a relationship can only be determined uniquely in each relationship, and by both partners.
Relationships are complicated. Each one is different. What might appear to be a sinking ship may only need some minor patchwork in order to sail the seven seas. In order for a relationship to last, both parties must contribute and communicate. If that is not an option for one or both of you, then best to put up the white flag. Do not burn bridges; it is not over, until it’s over.
If you feel the relationship is worth saving, go into communications with an open mind. Keep the gloves on and be positive rather than negative. But always remember, to every thing there is a season. Only you and your partner can determine what is best for your relationship: should you stay or should you go.
